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Emotional Balance

Emotional BalanceGetting started with the divorce process - Emotional balance

Emotional endurance and balance are necessary and powerful ingredients in the divorce process. Besides the obvious disequilibrium that accompanies the dissolution of a marriage or relationship, there are parenting concerns, financial and logistical issues, and a myriad of legal complexities that need to be traversed. Even if the marital relationship of a couple is no longer viable and a divorce is in progress, both spouses will still experience a sense of loss. Along with that, unidentifiable perhaps, feeling of loss, grief as well as many other emotions will be experienced by all members of the family. The emotional tension can escalate in the course of the divorce process, often with physical manifestations varying from aggression to withdrawal.

This is where emotional balance comes into play as an important goal for all family members, especially when a divorce is in progress. It is precisely during the time when focus and concentration need to be on achieving the best result in a divorce proceeding that heads need to be clear and emotions kept in check.

Obtaining the help of a family law attorney or professional can greatly help to keep individuals on course during a divorce. Ingrid Gherman, divorce attorney and mediator, understands these issues and how to direct both the legal and emotional needs of her clients during the stress of a divorce. She has the following specific suggestions as ways for you to maintain emotional balance during the divorce process:


1. Get support systems in place
Find ways to surround yourself with strong emotional support. Encouragement from trusted friends, family, spiritual advisors or psychologists is essential to help you through the difficult and complicated feelings that are inevitable during the divorce process.

2. Postpone big decisions
During this time it is better if you postpone any life altering decisions until you are able to think clearly.  This includes relocating or changing jobs or acquiring significant property.

3. Don't move out of your marital residence
It is vital that you do not move out of the family residence without first discussing it with your divorce attorney.

4. Talk to your children
Take extra care to reassure your children that they are not to blame for your separation or divorce. Find a way to explain this to your children in a way that is consistent with their ages and level of maturity. It is always best to be truthful and honest and give children simple and clear answers without casting blame on anyone.

5. Take care of yourself
At the same time that you are taking care of the business and financial aspects of your divorce, you must also take care of yourself. Keep your regular medical and dental examinations. If possible, undergo any medical treatments which are needed or anticipated in the near future, especially if they are covered under your spouse's insurance.

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New York divorce attorney Ingrid Gherman can help you to determine if your case will best be resolved through litigation in the courts or through divorce mediation or collaborative divorce. As a trained and experienced litigation and negotiator, Ingrid Gherman understands that both mediation and the collaborative divorce process can reduce the levels of stress during the course of a separation and divorce. To schedule a consultation with Ingrid Gherman, contact her at (212) 941-0767 or send the on-line form.

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