Help For Divorcing Parents
It can often be very hard when a marriage is dissolving for even the most well-meaning, caring, and thoughtful parents to know the best course of action and most helpful behavior when a child or children are involved. This time in the lives of everyone in the family is emotionally, logically, and financially stressful, possibly even traumatic. Living and visiting arrangements need to be considered because, for the children now, there will two households. But besides making those arrangements, or agreements, this should be a time for the parents to step back and consider, together if possible: How can we part as wife and husband and, at the same time, provide the nurturing that the children will need, especially now? In response to parents raising this question - there is help.Living and Visiting Arrangements
The obvious over-arching structural problem for the divorcing parents to resolve is custody, visitation, and parental access. They need to search for formula that is fair and right for the children. The different types of custody agreements include joint custody, sole custody, and shared custody. If you need help in knowing how to move forward on custody and visitation issues, contact the law office of Ingrid Gherman, a divorce and child custody lawyer with over 30 years experience handling precisely these types of cases. You can arrange a consultation with Ingrid by calling (212) 941-0767 or sending the on-line form.Co-Parenting Issues in Divorce
Not any less important than the legal and structural side of divorcing with children, is the aspect of parental behavior during that time. Co-parenting does not end with the dissolution of a marriage, it only becomes more challenging. The emotional well-being of the children has to be uppermost for parents. Here are some ways in which parents can make the transition to separation easiest for their children:
- Both parents should announce their intention to separate and divorce to their children, together, and make it clear that their decision is not the fault of their children. Parents should also convey to their children that both parents love the children and will continue to be present in their lives.
- Children should be allowed to continue the relationship and close bond with both parents, without fear or concern that one of the parents does not approve of such a close relationship with the other parent.
- Children should live in a positive and supportive home environment and experience the parents’ cooperation with each other, consistency, willingness to compromise and their ability to communicate effectively with each other.
- Parents should avoid fighting and arguing when the children are present; avoid sending messages to one another using children as messengers; and above all, avoid making disparaging comments about the other parent in the presence of children.
The aim of the New York State Parent Education and Awareness Program is to educate and help separating or divorcing parents regarding their breakup’s impact on their child or children. The program’s goal is to show parents the ways in which they can lessen the strain of family dislocation and keep children from the harmful effects of parental conflict. The program’s aims are to create and maintain supportive child-parent relationships and to provide a stable and caring home environment. To learn more about the program go to www.nycourts.gov/parented.
Parenting education classes of this kind can be greatly helpful to divorcing parents. In addition, a New York Judge can order spouses to attend these classes if their children are under the age of 18 and they are involved in court litigation regarding custody, visitation, divorce, separation or a child support proceeding.
If you are separating or divorcing and need experienced legal help with deciding the best course on child custody or visitation issues contact the law office of Ingrid Gherman at (212) 941-0767 or send the on-line form.